A sense of how others, particularly our parents, felt about us while we were a child. This feeling of not being wanted may have become habitual. It may not be true that we are not wanted, but our feelings are saying it is. Example: ‘My mother asked me to go and buy some butter for her.
A chain on my left leg prevented me from going very far. I look down the road and see my mum, dad and my four brothers in the back of a car. I wave and call and they drive right past me, going over the chain I am wearing on my leg’ (Lorraine). Lorraine’s dream illustrates not only her feelings of being left out of family life, but also the chain on her leg shows her not fully independent. We often feel abandoned’ while we are trying to become more independent. Being abandoned in the sense of allowing sexual and emotional liberty: finding a new freedom, dropping usual social codes and unashamedly expressing ourselves. Also: it can be an example of one of the functions of dreams, which is to release held back sexuality and emotion. See alone; functions of dreaming; hero.
A sense of emptiness, of having no one around whom you can depend on. Bewilderment.
Betrayal by someone who loves you, like that suffered by the children in the story of Hansel and Gretel.
The need for self-sufficiency. Astrological/Tarot parallel: The Moon
1. Feeling neglected.
2. If actually abandoned, a sense that bad news is on the way.
3. Abandoning someone else may mean an afﬁrmation of one’s independence.
1- Similar to the sense of being rejected, this represents a sense of how we experienced not being wanted when we were young. This may not actually be how it was but our feelings give us that perception.
For instance, a child having had to go into hospital may- have recurring dreams in adulthood of being abandoned, and may have problems in forming plans for future success.
2- To be abandoned, i.e. without restraint, within a dream may mean that we are looking for freedom. This could be emotional freedom, or the freedom to be ourselves.
3- This links with the Dionvsian concept of abandoning the serious for fun.