There are actually several meanings of abandonment that can give rise to dream images.
The first links with the idea of being able to let go completely – to be without restraint – and links with the dionysian concept of abandoning the serious for fun, entering into a state of ecstasy and achieving an altered state of consciousness.
The second meaning has a more negative connotation and deals with a sense of loss and deprivation. From a spiritual perspective this can arise from the initial separation anxiety that a baby may suffer when it is first born and realizes that it is no longer in the safe environment of the womb. There can also be a strong sense, as we progress spiritually, of having been abandoned or of having lost something important, perhaps our relationship with the divine. Dreams can often help us to reconnect as we become more conscious of needing to find a safe haven.
Psychological / emotional perspective: To be abandoned, i.E. Without restraint, within a dream may mean that we are seeking freedom or have issues with the idea of being constrained in some way. We are looking for the freedom to be ourselves.
Material aspects: Similar to the sense of being rejected, the sense of having been abandoned represents how we experienced not being wanted or not fitting in with others when we were young. Such a feeling can occur as a result of trauma.
For instance, a child having had to go into hospital may have recurring dreams in adulthood of being abandoned and may have problems in forming plans for future success. In such dreams there is seldom a sense of closure, often a sense of unfinished business. When we ourselves abandon something, we are becoming aware that we no longer need a particular way of thinking or being.
Gives gender - specific: A child’s first and most important relationship is with its mother, so being abandoned in a dream will have slightly different connotations in a man’s dream to those of a woman.
For both, however, there will be security issues. Grief at the loss of a partner or family member can trigger dreams of abandonment, perhaps bringing to the fore many unresolved issues. You may find it helpful to read the entries for lost, hospital and mother.
One’s own abandonment in a dream indicates the need to relinquish previous emotions and traits that are impeding personal advancement. Insubstantial beliefs and thoughts must be abdicated. This dream could be naturally analyzed as illustrating your phobia of being left behind, forsaken or double-crossed. Do thoughts that others disregard your ideas or beliefs frequently visit you? Recently experiencing or fearing the loss of a loved-one could trigger this abandonment dream. This phobia may subconsciously embody itself in your dream and thus serves as a vital component of dealing with and surpassing losing someone you cared about. Struggles from your youth or uncertain emotions could also be the cause of this dreams’ appearance.
If you are the one deserting others in your dream, this illustrates your being overpowered by your own conflicts and struggles.
You must consider this dream’s varying aspects in order to interpret it. Your unconscious may be giving you messages regarding what needs to be kept and needs to be let go. Traditional dream interpretations say that if you are the one being abandoned in your dream, it is a dream of the contrary and you may experience reconciliation or recovery from trouble or illness. Please remember that the unconscious is attempting to compensate for an imbalance in the conscious.
For example if you are overly attached to someone in daily life, in the dream state you may be abandoned by him/her. This is an attempt by the unconscious to make you aware of your dependency.
Of your lover indicates that you will not find something valuable that you have lost; and that advances made to those you believed your friends will be repulsed,
Of your mistress is a portent of the inheritance of a fortune that you have not previously expected.
A man who dreams of abandoning a mistress will inherit money from a hitherto unexpected source.
To dream of being abandoned is a portent of your failure to hold your own in your relations with friends and business associates.
To abandon a family or someone who is in trouble predicts some kind of grief.
To abandon a ship in a storm is a warning against going on a sea voyage.
Being abandoned is a contradictory dream. It means that you will reconcile with a lover, or quickly recover from trouble. Abandoning someone close means trouble is coming towards you, but by heeding the warning of the dream you can avoid it. Abandoning something bad means that good financial news is coming your way.
If you witness an abandonment in a dream, it means that important news is on the way.