Revealing loneliness is encouraging one to reach out in a mutually acceptable way
To dream that you are lonely indicates feelings of rejection. You may be feeling that no one understand you.
Feeling alone in a dream is a favourable omen, but it shows that you must depend on your own exertions, not on the influence or help of friends of strangers.
Abreaction is a re-experiencing of painful or traumatic events or situations. In many dreams it is obvious that the process underlying dreams is attempting to trigger an abreaction. This suggests the dream process, as Jung and Hadfield say, is a self-regulatory one in our psyche. In many cases where a person explores the feeling content of their dreams in a confident way, abreaction occurs. Although it has been given different names in recent years, such as primal therapy, rolfing, discharge, catharsis, abreaction is still a basic psychological healing process. Pans of our experience become repressed because there is an automatic reaction in us to avoid pain. Therefore painful experience may never be fully felt or understood at the time. Reliving them allows us to review and integrate vital information about ourselves. Frequently all the analysis in the world cannot relieve a neurotic pattern until the repressed emotion holding it in place is released and understood.
The strength with which we hold out against allowing our being to abreact spontaneously is seen in the above example. Mr KT is brought to the brink of reliving his very stressful childhood again and again. Yet he manages to avoid actual memory and, in particular, the experiencing of any childhood emotions and fears.
The opposite is shown in this account by Clive, who explored with me a dream about being shot in the arm in his father s shop. ‘For several hours I could find nothing about the dream. My mind simply wandered. But with help I persisted. Suddenly I seemed to break through, first to seeing how the shop was a place in which I have unconsciously experienced great emotional pain. My father was always criticising. Never a word of encouragement. Then I burst into powerful sobbing as I felt the pain of wanting my father to love me, instead of cnticising all the time, and help me grow into somebody capable of meeting life. And then, something I just had not wanted to see, the 30 years of my life I had wasted by avoiding any contact with authority. My father was the original authority in my life. I had cut off from him because of the lack of support, and I had done the same with school and other authority situations. But what a relief to understand myself, and to meet that young vulnerable boy I used to be. How I loved him and understood him/myself.’ abroad General: your feelings about that country.
If you have lived in that country: overall experience of that place. Were you happy there, lonely? What characteristics of the people did you take in?... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
2- There is the ability to recognise the necessity to deal with one’s own emotional make-up without the help of others.
3- There is a completeness, a wholeness.... Ten Thousand Dream Dictionary
If young ones are in the nest, it denotes successful journeys and satisfactory dealings.
If they are lonely and deserted, sorrow, and folly of yours will cause you anxiety. ... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
If you’re with a group of friends, however, support of all kinds is available from people who care for you.
If the caf? is chic and nicely decorated, your world is pretty much in order, but if it’s a shabby place, both your spirits and your life circumstances could use a lift, and you may need to seek it outside your usual domain... Dream Explanations of Astro Center
The example both shows the resolution of the loss, but also the paradox felt at realising the meeting was an inner reality. Example: ‘A couple of months ago as I was waking I felt my husband’s arm across me and most realistically experienced my hand wrapping around his arm and turning towards him (which I had done so often in his lifetime) and saying “1 thought you had died. Thank God you have not.” Then I awoke alone and terribly shaken’ (Mrs I).
A critic might say this is only a dream in which a lonely woman is replaying memories of her dead husband’s presence for her own comfort—thus her disappointment on being disillusioned. Whatever our opinion, the woman has within her such memories to replay. These are reality.
The inner reality is of what experience was left within her from the relationship. Her challenge is whether she can meet this treasure with its share of pain, and draw out of it the essence which enriches her own being. That is the spiritual life of her husband.
The aliveness’ of her husband in that sense is also social, because many other people share memories of him. What arises in their own lives from such memories is the observable influence of the now dead person.
But the dead also touch us more mysteriously, as in the next example. Example: In a recent news programme on television, a man who survived a Japanese prisoner of war camp in Singapore had been given a photograph of children by a dying soldier he did not know.
The man had asked him to tell his family of his death, but did not give his name.
The photograph was kept for 40 odd years, the man still wanting to complete his promise but not knowing how. One night he dreamt he was told the man’s name. Enquiries soon found the family of the man, who had an identical photograph. See husband under family. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
Depth Psychology: Your life is lacking feelings and intuition; you use too much logic and reason.
The desert is a symbol of desolation and impotence. Your barren soul is desperately in need of water (emotions and feelings!). Do you believe that you are in a hopeless situation? Going into the desert: you will thirst— for affection maybe. Are you chasing a fantasy? Are you lonely? A desert dream wants to give you a “mental” push: think about what changes you could make to restore happiness and productivity to your life. Analyze your present situation honestly (take a close look at the rest of the symbols in the dream)—things can only get better!... Dreamers Dictionary
To dream that a dog fondles you, indicates great gain and constant friends.
To dream of owning a dog with fine qualities, denotes that you will be possessed of solid wealth.
To dream that a blood-hound is tracking you, you are likely to fall into some temptation, in which there is much danger of your downfall.
To dream of small dogs, indicates that your thoughts and chief pleasures are of a frivolous order.
To dream of dogs biting you, foretells for you a quarrelsome companion either in marriage or business. Lean, filthy dogs, indicate failure in business, also sickness among children.
To dream of a dog-show, is indicative of many and varied favors from fortune.
To hear the barking of dogs, foretells news of a depressing nature. Difficulties are more than likely to follow.
To see dogs on the chase of foxes, and other large game, denotes an unusual briskness in all affairs.
To see fancy pet dogs, signifies a love of show, and that the owner is selfish and narrow.
For a young woman, this dream foretells a fop for a sweetheart.
To feel much fright upon seeing a large mastiff, denotes that you will experience inconvenience because of efforts to rise above mediocrity.
If a woman dreams this, she will marry a wise and humane man.
To hear the growling and snarling of dogs, indicates that you are at the mercy of designing people, and you will be afflicted with unpleasant home surroundings.
To hear the lonely baying of a dog, foretells a death or a long separation from friends.
To hear dogs growling and fighting, portends that you will be overcome by your enemies, and your life will be filled with depression.
To see dogs and cats seemingly on friendly terms, and suddenly turning on each other, showing their teeth and a general fight ensuing, you will meet with disaster in love and worldly pursuits, unless you succeed in quelling the row.
If you dream of a friendly white dog approaching you, it portends for you a victorious engagement whether in business or love.
For a woman, this is an omen of an early marriage.
To dream of a many-headed dog, you are trying to maintain too many branches of business at one time. Success always comes with concentration of energies.
A man who wishes to succeed in anything should be warned by this dream.
To dream of a mad dog, your most strenuous efforts will not bring desired results, and fatal disease may be clutching at your vitals.
If a mad dog succeeds in biting you, it is a sign that you or some loved one is on the verge of insanity, and a deplorable tragedy may occur.
To dream of traveling alone, with a dog following you, foretells stanch friends and successful undertakings.
To dream of dogs swimming, indicates for you an easy stretch to happiness and fortune.
To dream that a dog kills a cat in your presence, is significant of profitable dealings and some unexpected pleasure.
For a dog to kill a snake in your presence, is an omen of good luck ... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
To hear the lonely, mournful voice of a dove, portends sorrow and disappointment through the death of one to whom you looked for aid. Often it portends the death of a father.
To see a dead dove, is ominous of a separation of husband and wife, either through death or infidelity.
To see white doves, denotes bountiful harvests and the utmost confidence in the loyalty of friends.
To dream of seeing a flock of white doves, denotes peaceful, innocent pleasures, and fortunate developments in the future.
If one brings you a letter, tidings of a pleasant nature from absent friends is intimated, also a lovers’ reconciliation is denoted.
If the dove seems exhausted, a note of sadness will pervade the reconciliation, or a sad touch may be given the pleasant tidings by mention of an invalid friend; if of business, a slight drop may follow.
If the letter bears the message that you are doomed, it foretells that a desperate illness, either your own or of a relative, may cause you financial misfortune. ... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
To see one soaring above a lonely place js a sign of pleasantly and honestly acquired wealth.
Nesting eagles are a portent of appointment to a position of trust that you will fill with admirable success.
Fighting eagles arc an omen that you will be able to clear yourself of an accusation of wrong doing.
To hear an eagle scream augurs wel! for the success of a musician or other artist Such will achieve distinction in their profession.
It is also a good sign for those active in politics.... The Complete Dream Book
If the dreamer is the executioner in the dream it signifies a desire to eliminate or overthrow the authority of another person.... Psycho Dream Interpretation
Depth Psychology: Meeting a person you know: the feelings you have for the person in the dream are the same as those you have for a friend in real life.... Dreamers Dictionary
If you are the hermit: you have lost faith in vour fellow men and would like to withdraw. Living with your partner in an isolated place: your relationship needs a major overhaul—in some cases, only a separation will do.
Depth Psychology: A hermit often symbolizes a wise counselor; sometimes it means you have lost faith in a person or in humanity and that you would like to “get away from it all.” Are you feeling lonely right now? Do you need peace and quiet, to find a place where you can think about the world, yourself, and your life? See Guru.... Dreamers Dictionary
The sea or the ocean generally symbolizes our unconscious. Thus, if you were very lonely or fearful of the waters around you, it may be an indication that you are unwilling to look deeply into yourself. You may be afraid of the materials that are under the surface of your conscious thoughts and feelings.... The Bedside Dream Dictionary
If you were content, serene, and happy, the dream suggests you need to take time for rest and renewal.
If you were lonely and afraid, it may indicate you need to look deeply into yourself in order to sort out your thoughts and feelings towards life, a person, or a situation.... Tryskelion Dream Interpretation
Depth Psychology: An island reflects fear about the responsibilities of life and—in that sense—is an attempt to take flight from reality (or to retreat from the world). Sometimes it might simply be a matter of needing some peace and solitude after a particularly hectic period.
The dream can also be a warning about not isolating or withdrawing.... Dreamers Dictionary
If the dreamer is running away from enemies to seek refuge on an island, it indicates a deep wish to escape from present conditions.
If there are many people on the island, the dreamer is lonely and seeks new companions.
The island represents a desire for unlimited freedom.... Psycho Dream Interpretation
If a young woman dreams of withered leaves, she will be left lonely on the road to conjugality. Death is sometimes implied.
If the leaves are green and fresh, she will come into a legacy and marry a wealthy and prepossessing husband.... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
The rest of the dream is important; you might find a solution.
See Abandonment, Child, Loneliness, Parents. Outer Office
Vision: Sitting in an outer office: whatever you have planned, have courage and keep on going—don’t second-guess yourself.
Depth Psychology: Providing you haven’t set your goals too high, you will succeed. See Secretary.... Dreamers Dictionary
Example: ‘I was outdoors with a group of people acting as leader. We were in the middle of a war situation with bullets playing around us. Maybe aeroplanes were also attacking. I was leading the group from cover to cover, avoiding the bullets’ (Paul W). Despite feeling attacked, either by external events, or from inner conflicts, Paul is using leadership skills to deal with his own fears and tendencies.
If a friend told us he had just had an argument with his wife and was going to leave her, we might sit down and counsel them by listening and helping them to son out the hun feelings from their long- term wishes. We might point out they had felt this way before, but it passed—in other words give feedback they had missed. In a similar way, our various emotions and drives often need this son of skill employed by ourself. This unifies us, leading to coping skills as in Paul’s dream.
Example: Walking alone through a small town. I was heading for a place that a group of people, in a street parallel to mine, were also heading for.
A person from the group tried to persuade me that the right way to get to the place was along the street the group was walking. I knew the street did not matter, only the general direction.
The person was quite disturbed by my independence. It made him or her feel uncenain co have their leader apparently questioned. I felt uncenain too for a moment’ (Ivor S).
A group of people, as in Ivor’s dream, can also depict how one meets the pressure of social norms. As social relationship is one of the most imponant factors outside personal survival—and survival depends upon it— such dreams help us to clarify our individual contact with society. Human beings have an unconscious but highly developed sense of the psychological social environment. Ivor’s dream shows something we are all involved in—how we are relating to humans collectively. Are we in conflict with group behaviour and direction? Do we conform, but perhaps have conflict with our individual drives? Do we find a way between the opposites? Much of our response is laid down in childhood and remains unconscious unless we review it.
In some dreams, a group of people represent what is meant by the word God. This may sound unlikely, but the unconscious, because it is highly capable of synthesis, often looks at humanity as a whole. Collectively humanity has vast creative and destructive powers which intimately affect us as individuals. Collectively it has performed miracles which, looked at as an individual, appear impossible. How could a little human being build the Great Pyramid, or a space shuttle? The Bible echoes this concept in such phrases as Whatever you do to the least of one of these, you do to me. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
If you remember your hermit dream, talk to the hermit, ask him your question, and you will get an answer that comes from your own center. Since time immemorial, the hermit has been considered a signpost, guiding you through everyday troubles and darkness.
The hermit can bring you warmth, affection, brilliance, and wisdom.... Little Giant Encyclopedia
For a young woman to dream that she glides swiftly over the sea with her lover, there will come to her sweet fruition of maidenly hopes, and joy will stand guard at the door of the consummation of changeless vows. See Ocean. ... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
An empty shopping cart means you feel lonely and in need of comfort.... My Dream Interpretation
The party you are calling is not answering: you made arrangements for a meeting, but the other party will not show up. Hearing the phone ring in your sleep but you are not answering: you are afraid of your innermost feelings or denying them.
Depth Psychology: The telephone reflects your personal relationships and your contact with your unconscious. Are you feeling lonely? Do you receive few or no phone calls during the day? The rest of the dream symbols are very important because they may give you useful insights or helpful hints.... Dreamers Dictionary
The wolf often symbolizes the shadow of male sexuality. Be glad to have had such a strong dream. You are powerful; you do not need to kill the wolf, hut you can dance with him.
In Steppenwolfy by Herman Hesse, the wolf becomes a symbol for the lonely seeker (and sufferer). Here it is not so much a reference to the meanness of the wolf, but rather the lonely search for the meaning of life.
In Christianity, the wolf is compared to the false prophet and heretic.
According to Jung, the wolf is wilder than the Lion and the Dog. Between 1910 and 1914, Sigmund Freud treated a patient who later would become famous as the “Wolfman.” As a small child this patient suffered from terrifying dreams about wolves, which was the reason why Freud gave him this name.
The earliest memories this man had about his nightmares involved six or seven White wolves that were sitting in a hazelnut tree in front of his window, and he was sure they had come to devour him. Freud here makes reference to two fairy tales: “Little Red Riding Hood” and “The Wolf and the Seven Little Goats.” In addition, Freud sees the wolf as a father substitute. As a young boy, the patient had observed his parents having intercourse from behind, and according to Freud, the patient transferred his repressed desire for sexual gratification by his father to a fear of wolves.
The female wolf symbolizes the nurturing power of nature, like Romulus and Remus, who were both nursed by a wolf. This is also the essence of the fairy tale “Little Red Riding Hood,” where the wolf is not only devouring Grandmother but he is Grandmother—the great mother symbol of wild nature.... Little Giant Encyclopedia